This imperative starts with a
strongly held negative objective. "I don't care what you do as long as
you DON'T Do That!" (It can work both ways.) "I don't care who you recruit
for the effort as long as my brother-in-law is the team leader." Again,
nothing on the surface disqualifies these wishes. More deeply, they are
frequently attempts at avoiding some inevitable something. The thing most
strenuously avoided is most likely to happen or it will need to happen
for successful completion. Any outcome is more difficult to cope with if
it's not supposed to happen. (I'll guarantee that "this brother-in-law" has
been a problem somewhere else and this assignment is giving him his Nth
last chance, all of which he's failed so far.)
Avoiding inevitability can be a successful short-term strategy, but
it never works long term. Holding off the inescapable seems to conspire
against the defenders. We're probably better off learning how to cope with
what we wish to avoid sooner, on our own terms, since we're likely to have
to face the inevitable eventually. Questioning this answer usually takes
some courage and a fall back plan, to help others accept the perceived
unreasonable short-term risk.
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